Monday, 15 February 2016

Valentine's Day and The Concept of Self Love.

I've never been much of a fan of Valentine's Day. Until now. Yesterday was a magical day spent with someone very special who treated me to the most fabulous and hilarious gifts as I cooked him a ridiculously filling dinner. Valentine's Day, albeit very much a Hallmark Holiday, is a great day to spend thinking about love. This doesn't always mean thinking about the love you have for others but the love you yourself deserve.

 When I was single and scraped through February 14 only slightly unscathed it was because I spent far too long thinking about what I wanted instead of what I do have. The most important relationship you will ever have will be with yourself. It is so important to remember that to truly grow in a relationship and have your partner grow with you you need to take care of yourself. This can mean anything from recognising how valuable you are as a human being, to having a spa-day, to spending a few hours writing down what you are truly grateful for and what you want to work on in the future to expelling toxic and undeserving people from your life.

The older i've gotten the more I have appreciated the concept of self-love. At first it sounded like some kind of tacky concept that was embarrassing to discuss with friends or family in the fear of sounding selfish or cliche but there really is something to it. For me the biggest representations of self love was the ability to remove toxic people from my life, to learn how to be assertive, learn more about nutrition and health, the act of mindfulness and being empathetic to my own situation as I would be to others.

This concept isn't something you should only think about on days like this but something that should always be in the back of your mind. I was told by someone once, "treat yourself the way you would want your own children to be treated." That statement truly changed the way I thought about myself. Suddenly I went from thinking about myself to thinking about a being that I would always want the best for and I realised that this should also be the way I think about myself. Whenever I think about doing something this thought always comes into my mind and it's certainly saved me from many unfortunate decisions and has also fed some very good ones. 

I hope you've all had a very lovely weekend. Remember to love yourself and don't forget that people aren't mind-readers, tell them how you feel. 

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